Do you often seek to achieve a perfect standard in your work? When you see something, is the first thing you spot, the mistake? Does every single thing you do, need to be perfect? A perfectionist is a person who refuses to accept anything below perfection. It has to be the way they want it to be, even the littlest mistake bothers her and it bothers you so much. To a perfectionist, anything that is less than perfect, cannot be accepted.
See if you possess any of these habits to find out if you are indeed a perfectionist.
- You have the critical eye. There is no room for mistakes. Seeing an error, you are the first to notice it and correct it, to change to how it should really be. While this can simply mean that you are just very detail-oriented, perfectionists often spot mistakes from a distance.
- You have a very specific fashion in which things should be done. It should be your way, because that’s how one can know that it’s the correct one. People don’t see you eye-to-eye because of this, because you can be very specific about how things should be done. If it is out of place or doesn’t follow your approach, then it is not acceptable. Due to this, it is hard for you to find the right people to work with, or some might find it difficult to work with you.
- It is all about the end result. Perhaps, you do not care so much what happens in between, or what it takes to achieve that certain goal. All you want is the end result to be attained, otherwise, you would feel bothered and frustrated.
- It’s all or nothing. Either you do everything very well, or you don’t do it at all.
- You are extremely hard on yourself. Whenever there is an error, you become really hard on yourself. It doesn’t matter if it’s your fault, if it is a small or big matter, you are always quick to feel bad and beat yourself up.
- Defensiveness. A performance that is less than perfect, is quite painful and scary to perfectionists. You tend to take constructive criticism defensively.
- You become depressed when your goals aren’t reached. When it’s not how you envisioned it, you keep wondering about all the what if’s and keep wishing you could do something about it to make it right.
- Your standards are high. When you have set your mind to do something, you have high objectives you wish to accomplish. These are what stresses you incessantly. Because of this, you might end up procrastinating or avoid these circumstances where you think you might not surpass. The fear of failing is there.
- Perfection is the end goal. It is not uncommon for you to give up your sleep, refuse to eat, personal time and well-being, just to bring your work to the level that you have set.
- Success is never satisfactory. Anything that you do. there is always a better level or version you want to aim for. You are hardly ever satisfied if you do not go far for a bigger and better goal, and always want to see more and better things.
- You say “should” a lot. “I should do this” and “you should do that” are common phrases, whether it is out loud or stays on your mind. You have an unwritten rule that you believe you and the others should follow.
- You rarely delegate. It’s hard for you to trust others to do a task correctly. Sometimes there is only one way, and that is your way. Others may see you as a control-freak, but really, you’re doing it just to get the job done right.
- You’re not one to ask for help. Perfectionists have this drive to accomplish tasks successfully on their own. One might think that asking for help is a sign of weakness.