To my dear friend, my sister in Islam, the beautiful bride-to-be. As you are about to embark on your amazing journey into the married life, there are a few things that I would like to say to you.

I am so thrilled that you are getting married to your Mr. Right, your soulmate, the love of your life. From the day that you told me you were marrying him, I couldn’t be happier.

As I watched you plan your dream wedding, you put your heart into it, faced with decision after decision, and even have some sleepless nights from it, worrying about this and that. They say planning is fun, but also is the most stressful part, but I know that when that day, that very day, comes, I hope your heart is filled and seeing all your loved ones there, and the altar, all that you planned and designed, is how you picture it to be. All the time you spent, the tears you might have drop, and the ups and downs following your wedding day.

I am not even the one getting married and I am just beyond excited for your wedding day. I know for a fact that you have chosen a noble man to be your future husband, the one who will guide you throughout your life and someone you can grow old with, and I am sure that you both know how incredibly lucky that you two have crossed paths years ago. It’s amazing and has been such a joy that we get to watch your relationship grow from friendship, and look at you now, about to make the biggest step in life.

I am not married yet, so I may not be the person to give you marriage advice, but do know that no matter where the future takes you, no matter where your paths take you, the moment will be yours. I know your beautiful day will be as beautiful as you are walking down the aisle. I’m so happy for the both of you, you two are a great match. Indeed, Allah created us in pairs (Quran, 51:49) and I can’t wait to celebrate with you on your big day.

As your bridesmaid and friend, I am obligated to tell you that I will be there to help you each and every step of the way on your wedding day. Don’t sweat the small stuff. That’s why you have us: your bridesmaids. So please, take a deep breath, get your full night’s sleep and keep smiling. Let us fix the beads on your dress, the flowers in your bouquet, the veil over your headscarf. Let us do the worrying as you begin your journey into the world of forever.  

The day when you’re signing the papers for your father to give you away to your soulmate is the day I know that it will be somewhat heartbreaking. You reading it out loud will finally strike you that this is real, you are getting married, and all your right as a daughter to your father, will now be handed to your future husband.

The moment your future husband utters “Aku terima nikahnya” (translated: I accept the marriage) and says your full name, tears may fall from my eyes, and you, of course, through my own tears, I will (try to) signal you from where I’ll be, for you to not ruin your makeup.

Your wedding day is all about you and your future husband celebrating the union and the start of a new life together. Marriage is a huge and exciting life transition. Years from now, you will be looking back and remember it oh so fondly. You will miss planning it and maybe the stress too. This chapter is the beginning of a new book of yours, and just like a book, there will be ups and downs and you might face challenges, and you and your future husband will learn more about each other and how to work through those issues.

Audrey Hepburn once said, “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.”

I wish you and your future husband get the best of luck in the future, even though I know that you two are on the road to marital bliss as I write this. I hope that your wedding day is everything that you always dreamed that it would be and strengthen the bond that you and your love share. I know that someday you will be able to look back on this hectic time with fond memories and know that is was all worth it in the end. All my love and best wishes to you both. I can’t wait to celebrate with you on your big day.

Marriage is a journey. Enjoy the ride, and know that any bumps in the road will later pass. We will be here for you every step of the way.

May Allah grant you Barakaat (blessings) and descend His blessings on both of you and keep you united.