What usually keeps us from living our lives to the fullest are limiting beliefs, which more often than not, we don’t even know are there. They’re hidden underneath the surface, controlling a large number of choices and feelings unwillingly. We keep it inside, often they stay in our heads, and we don’t even tell anyone, but when you say it out loud, you’ll realize just how restricting, and at times, silly they are. Whether you’re struggling for the pursuit of happiness or just want to enhance your life, start letting go of these layers of deep rooted beliefs that hold you back right away!
1. I won’t be happy until I … [insert action here]
Until I get that job, until I find a my better half, until my salary is so and so.. You get the gist. These are all external factors, which makes us wonder, why is it that when we are looking for happiness, why do we look at these external factors? The best approach to find true happiness is to look within yourself and change our mindset. Nothing else can control your happiness, but YOU can.
2. I can’t try that, I’ll get rejected.
Perhaps, you’ve gone to so many job interviews, and it’s always either no one ever calls back, or you get that rejection letter delivered to your house. You end up feeling so down and just want to stop trying because of the fear of rejection. I must admit, it’s demotivating and makes you feel as though you’re not worthy to be hired anywhere. Rejection is merely a process that lets you know that you’re knocking on the wrong doors, and lets you improve. It’s a learning process.
3. It’s too late to pursue my dreams.
It’s not. What makes a person think in such a way? It’s been engraved in our hearts that we have to reach certain milestones at certain times in our life. We feel pressured when everyone else have their dreams set, and have accomplished them. Truth is, it doesn’t matter at what age you are. It’s your dream, and if you believe that you can do it, you will.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream – c.s lewis”
4. I can’t be my real self or I’ll be judged.
Successful people often receive backlash, criticisms, and are always judged, trying to tear them down. They don’t let negativity bother them in the ladder of success. If you let the judgements affect you, then you would never accomplish what you would be dreaming of doing. You can’t please everyone, you’re better of being yourself, there’ll never be anyone else like you.
5. I can’t fall in love, I’ll get my heart broken.
Such a belief prevents you from finding love. Heartbreaks are painful, but it shapes you, makes you stronger and wiser. You don’t want this belief to have your life filled with “what if”s and regrets when you grow older. Heartbreaks will help you learn more about yourself, and put you closer towards attracting the right person in your life.
6. I can’t pursue my dreams, I’ll fail
If you’ve repeatedly attempted to pursue and fail, you start thinking that you’ll fail again. Failing is how we learn, adapt, and toughen up so we can get to the point where we can succeed. Refusing to try again makes failure permanent. If you pursuing something that you love and passionate about, you’ll end up in an interesting enough place that you’ll be glad you tried.