Fashion is in the eye of the beholder. It is subjective and varies for everyone. Despite the ‘in-trend’ lists from fashion gurus and the latest popular items from websites, your sense of fashion depends on one thing: you.

Your personality is what makes the whole look yours. Your preference is what defines your style, your interpretation of fashion and how you put clothes together. Ignoring what you like and how you are, for the current must-haves or trends of the season, will only result in a loss of identity and a missing ingredient to your personal style: yourself.

At the end of the day, ask yourself, what’s the use of buying something that is ‘in’ just to feel miserable?

Growing up, I never really had a strong sense of ‘current’ fashion. Despite all the attempts from my relatives, and my poor dear mother, I just had a lack of interest in that area. My attire consisted of t-shirts, jeans and a pair of sneakers. Things didn’t get better throughout my teenage years, nor has it gotten any better at all. I still don’t get the whole trending looks, or understand the seasonal must-have accessories.

Though, over the years, I’ve grown a little bit out of my comfort zone of shirts and jeans and at times have changed it up, here and there. So, if you’re anything like me, well, these are a few lessons I’ve learned about style without sacrificing comfort (from several concerned and well-meaning people in my life).

  • Wear something that fits you

Don’t go up and down the shopping rack looking for something that looks good but doesn’t fit. Avoid going too tight with your clothing, or going way too loose. Even if it’s a top or blouse that you really like, if the cut doesn’t complement your body shape, then don’t get it. Instead, opt for something that has a nice, suitable look.

Remember, what you wear doesn’t have to be tight and revealing for you to look good, nor does it have to be baggy and hide you underneath it.  Even if it’s a t-shirt, or a blouse you really like, find something that complements you. You’re wearing the clothes, they’re not wearing you.

  • Make sure you’re comfortable wearing it

So, you see something you like displayed, and you try it on. You look good, but you feel uncomfortable. Do you get it?

Here’s a piece of advice: Don’t. Despite looking good, if you’re not feeling good, then chances are you’re better off without it. It’s a fact that, if you don’t feel good wearing it, you’re not going to wear it.

So, it’s a much better choice to look for something you’d like, and will want to wear.

  • Don’t be too close minded with the new

Despite not being able to understand the ever-changing nature of trends and must haves, take a look at them. It’s a good way to get to know new ways on how to wear clothes. Even better, it’s a prime way to find new additions that catch your eye.

Just remember, don’t be compelled to own it because it’s ‘in’. There’s no harm in being in the know how as long as you don’t lose yourself in the hive mind. Only get it, if you want to. Fashion is for you; it’s not the other way round.